Even though he picked your engagement ring on his own (or with a little help from your friends and family), choosing the actual wedding rings is something you want to do together. A lot of couples simply opt to get matching rings, although some women choose a band that is better suited to their engagement ring (or simply go with a 2-in-1 combination band). However, this may be the one and only piece of jewelry your man ever wears, so you want to make sure he gets something he likes (since he’s going to have to live with it until death do you part). It needs to be something special and you can do a lot to ensure that he’s happy with it.
For starters, it needs to be comfortable. Men are all about what feels right. They might not seem terribly particular when it comes to clothing, shoes, and underwear, but you may have noticed that when they find something they like, they buy it in bulk. This is because they have a notion that it doesn’t really matter how something looks as long as it’s comfortable (a concept many women have a difficult time grasping). So, to ensure that he finds a wedding band that suits his aesthetic, have him try on a number of rings until he finds one that feels the best (and don’t allow your aesthetic sensibilities to interfere). Keep in mind that many companies make comfort-fit bands with rounded edges in a number of very nice styles, so you may want to look for these innovative brands.
Next you’ll want to consider how the ring looks. It doesn’t have to match your wedding band, but you don’t want it to be totally dissimilar, either. At the very least, you should choose the same metal. It’s going to look awfully strange if your band is platinum and his is gold. And you may want to stick with a similar theme, as well. For example, say your ring is ultra-modern and festooned with diamonds. He may not want a ring with gemstones on it, and that is perfectly acceptable. But he shouldn’t make a beeline for the Celtic knot designs. If that’s something he wants, then perhaps you should consider getting both rings in that style.
In short, you may need to make some concessions. Men and women often have very different ideas about what is most important when it comes to items that will adorn their bodies, and people in general have different notions of what is attractive. So consider this your first challenge of compromise in your newly solidified relationship and think about letting him have his way just this once (or at least convince him that your way was his idea in the first place)!
